Friday, 5 February 2021

THE UNSAID, THE UNSAYABLE, AND THE NOT-TO-BE-SAID: A REVIEW OF ADICHIE’S ZIKORA

Adichie, in Zikora, her new short story, in spite of its brevity, touches on a number of themes and issues that reflect both the natural and cultural pains that constrain the lives of women in a patriarchal society. As her true self, she leads us, via the perspicuity of her eagle-eye narrative style, to see and contest the unusualness of the usual. This, of course, generates controversies about those things we have taken for granted in culture for far too long in order to question and seek answers to those things that culture would ordinarily not expect us to assess, much less condemn. Adichie will always broach into those subjects that are rarely discussed or questioned in culture and this is to enable us see how women’s lives are never on the same platforms with those of their male counterparts.

Adichie projects that both Nature and culture conspire to deal out painful blows to women. If Nature would require women to be the agent of reproduction in culture, why must everything surrounding that process be underlined by pains – menstrual pain, life-shifts in pregnancy, labour pain, pains of birth tears and stitches, nipple infections, death, uncomfortable consequences of contraceptives, menopausal discomforts, heartbreaks, disappointments, among others? These, of course, raise many questions: Why should women be at the centre of all these painful experiences? Why should maternal mortality be rendered insignificantly as numbers and data? Why should men be justified to not understand women’s bodies but expect women’s to understand men’s? Why should women suffer for choosing to love men or to be with men? Why should women be blamed for getting pregnant in a relationship where there is unprotected sex? Why should women bear the consequences of getting pregnant or not getting pregnant? The questions keep popping up.

CNA also pictures that no matter the height a woman reaches in society, she may not be immune against patriarchal lashes. For example, Zikora, the first-person reflector of the narrative, is a 39-year old lawyer practicing in DC. She is not just an accomplished woman in her own rights, she is also a daughter to rich Nigerian parents and in a steady and promising relationship with Kwame, an equally successful lawyer gentleman of Ghana descent. Kwame, much like Zikora, has wealthy parents who chart the paths of success for their children. In spite of duo’s social class and status, however, Zikora has to face the consequences of her pregnancy all by herself because Kwame feels she does not include her in the decisions to get pregnant and to keep the baby. For Zikora, that is not the logical argument they are supposed to be having since he knows she has stopped taking her contraceptives and they are having unprotected sex which technically is an approval of a subsequently possible pregnancy. Rationality, however, is not the ground in this circumstance.

CNA uses Zikora’s labour pain as the trajectory to bring the narrative to the fore. While the labour pain lasted, Zikora is able to reflect on the experiences of other women and their pains so that we are can see how every woman’s experience is similar to  other women's in one way or the other.

Zikora’s mum’s pain is beyond the pain of being side-lined and pushed from the centre to the edge of things in her matrimonial home. Her pain is actually clearer in her being asked to step aside to take the dignifying position of the senior wife because of her failure to bear a son. Of course, the biology of the XX and XY chromosomes makes us know she is not guilty of this offence as charged. Her pain is thus more than the constancy of the marital disruption that makes her life never to remain the same. The intrusion into her life robs her of balance and she thus dashes into a far journey within herself to be secured from further bruises. As indicated earlier, Adichie wants us to see that the patriarchal hammer never finds any pedestal a woman is on too high for it to conquer. How could one have expected that the perfectly poised mum, in spite of her wealth and achievements, would be treated as an object of not much importance or regard? Or as someone whose decisions, actions and reactions are inconsequential?

The experiences of Mmiliaku, the clever cousin of Zikora, are pains on a different term. After graduating from school, she is constrained to live with her parents who strictly and overly confines her. Since her boyfriend is still struggling to enter a greener pasture in China and can hardly think of marriage, she willingly agrees to marry nice Emmanuel in order to acquire her much needed independence. Unfortunately, her supposed bargain for freedom does not end well. Emmanuel tells her not to hold any job and decrees that her best friend should no longer visit because married women don’t keep single friends. As she is ordered not to hold a job or keep her old friends, Mmiliaku’s negotiated freedom becomes the open door into a bleak marital prison.

Mmiliaku’s pitiable condition is worsened by the fact that she soon becomes a baby-making machine. When her fifth child is six months old and the eldest child is around six years, she finds herself pregnant again. Of course, she is to be blamed for the pregnancy. Like Zikora’s pregnancy, Mmiliaku’s pregnancy is her sole business to deal with. Her delay to insert the birth control coil is understandable but not tenable. She has waited for both her stitches and nipple infection to heal up and her baby’s pneumonia to be cured – so many painful experiences to deal with in one bunch. As she faces the dilemma of whether or not to keep the baby, she concludes to get rid of the baby and thus resorts to Zikora to help with the fund to get rid of the baby. Because of her pitiable and highly constrained married life, she is afraid to speak with Zikora on her cell phone for fear that Emmanuel, who is not at home at the time, may overhear their conversation. When she eventually gets the money from Zikora, she hides it in her daughter’s underwear drawer where she is sure Emmanuel will never go and so will never find the money.

Mmiliaku’s life is not just a constrained one; it is a life propelled by the constant fear of the master. She fears to offend the master and fears when the master is in a bad mood because that may, among other consequences, get her the punishment of her eldest child’s school fee not being paid. It is so destabilising and unjust that Mmiliaku who is financially demobilised by the husband will be punished by the same husband by denying her of his financial obligations.

One other pitiable event in Mmiliaku’s marriage is marriage rape. While patriarchal culture contests that a man raping his wife since he has the absolute right to her body, Adichie renegotiates this issue as she paints the absurdity and brutality of marriage rape to us when Mmiliaku tells Zikora on the phone that:

Emmanuel still waits until I'm asleep, then he climbs on me, and of course I’m dry and I wake up in pain. Sixteen years (my emphasis).

 

With Zikora’s reflections on her life as well as her mum’s and Mmiliaku’s lives, we get to see how identical their experiences are. Until Zikora goes through the same experience, those things she never understands about her mum and Mmiliaku become evident to her. She clearly sees how she has always blamed the wrong persons. Zikora, painted against these other two women, is quite feeble and does not measure to these women in terms of their strength. We can, however, hope that this tough time will toughen Zikora and make her strong like the other women.

Thursday, 4 February 2021

#ØRAPABILITY!

Trauma Street
Vulnerability Lane
Fear Zone.
 
Dear Olodumare,
 
I am not fine.
I am robbed daily.
I am oppressed.
I am repressed.
I am suppressed.
Persecuted.
Murdered.
Traumatised.
Everyday!
Every time!
Everywhere!
 
I am that orange
That beautifies the cottage garden
That sends out soothing fragrance in my bloom
That gives hope in my flowering
That offers sweetness in my collection.
In return,
I am hunted. Audaciously. Surreptitiously. Mischievously. Hypocritically. Consciencelessly.
I am violently plucked.
I am vigorously devoured.
I am mindlessly torn into pieces.
I am listlessly trashed – used and abused garbage on their dunghills.
Physically brutalised.
Emotionally immobilised.
Mentally destabilised.
Socially stigmatised
Optimally victimised.
 
Dear Olodumare,
I have one plea;
One urgent plea;
One very urgent plea;
Just one very urgent plea!
Save me.
Shield me.
Deliver me
From this constant vulnerability
Lord, from this demonic judgement
Interrupting the metamorphosis of my femininity
Dear Olodumare,
MAKE ME *UNRAPABLE.
 
I am that innocent infant
That rootstock with no outstanding form or figure
Female only for the matron’s announcement
Human for my constant demand for gregariousness.
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
I am that happy-go-lucky one,
That tender plant prepping for the flowering stage,
Obviously feminine for making the soup of leaves,
Subconsciously female for attending cloth-made baby.
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
I am that bloom of the teen age,
That flowering phase of a conscious femininity,
Now enduring the biting pains on my shooting nipples,
And the rumblings heralding cycles and years in my tummy.
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
I am that well-endowed and inviting cream of the crop;
I am that orange in the curd phase of life,
Decked with succulent breasts,
And skin like fish, the waist like eight, the hips like ball.
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
I am that ready and prepared virtue,
Glowing in fattening and collection,
Totally hooked and loving my man,
Committedly mothering all of my children.
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
I am that menopausal woman
Moving and travelling down the lane of age
Seeking refuge from hotness in the coolest of time
Gradually resigning to the fate of slipping slip.
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
I am that mother of nations
Already in old age and resting from the throbs of penis
Sincerely regaling in the joy of fruit round my table.
Desperately hoping for health and strength
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
I am the mummy stretched out and wrapped up,
Permanently formalinised from the ups and the downs,
Patiently awaiting to lie on the bed of Nature.
Already perceiving the smell of dust in dust
However,
Olodumare,
You must blind them from seeing me.
You must paralyse them from touching me.
You must fortify me with the walls of fire.
You must shield me from their invasions.
You must make me unrapable.
 
Olodumare,
Will you not attend to your traumatised daughter?
Will you not pity my vulnerability?
Will you not save me from this crime of femaleness?
Will you not answer me speedily as I wait patiently?
Will you not hear?
Will you not save?
Will you not…?
 
I wait.
I always shall wait.

Friday, 27 November 2020

When we meet, see me

When we meet,
See me,
Not my meronymy.
 
Do not see me as my beautiful face like the star of the morning.
I did not decide what I would look like in the world.
Do not see me as my well-crafted lips.
Olodumare Himself decided on that extra finish.
Do not see me as my bright and pretty eyeballs.
I need those eyes to see with perspicuity.
Do not see me as my well-packed luscious bosom.
If they go down today, what can I do?
Do not see me as my soft fish-like olive skin.
I cannot recount the cost of moisturizer, sunscreen and diet.
Do not see me as my bouncing hips.
Leg works, hip works, and thigh works work.
Do not see me as my brightening dimpled smiles.
Wisdom prescribes engaging seven muscles to thirty-seven.
Do not see me as my bounty and glowing Afro hair.
The glory of 4c-hair is ingrained in care and patience.
Do not see me as my sonorous nightingale voice.
I woke to find my voice like that.
Do not see me as my perfect figure-eight shape.
It only indicates my years of discipline to keep me healthy.
Do not see me as my outstanding fashion and dressing sense.
I actually love good looks for me and all.
 
When we meet,
See me.
See my quintessence.
See my tenacity.
See my audacity.
See my sincerity.
See my dexterity.
See my propriety.
See my capability.
See my versatility.
See my perspicuity.
See my intellectuality.
I say
See my limitlessness!
 
When we meet,
See me.
See that woman
Who stands tall no matter her size,
Who possesses overboard cerebral capabilities,
Who engages in critical reasoning for global solutions,
Who lifts little hands and strengthens feeble feet,
Who provides for the homeless and the hungry,
Who cares to enthrone sanity in rotten polity,
Who advocates clean environmental practices,
Who voices the voice of the voiceless,
Who speaks against calumny and power rascality,
Who administers without fear or favour,
Who protests sacrilege in the Holy places,
Who breathes humanness in a world of inhumanity,
Who plants to feed the nation and the world,
Who revolts against sex-for-grade vices,
Who cries out against rapes and sexual molestations,
Who rebuilds the ruins of education a-falling,
Who detests unholy commercialisations and profiteering,
Who moulds the tabula-rasa of the innocent little ones with finesse,
Who promotes feminine economic independence,
Who regales in masculine reliability and responsibility,
Who makes the judicial system a true hope of the masses,
Who realises a dependable healthcare system,
Who enters the lion’s den to rescue those held as preys,
Who sees no mountain too great to surmount,
Who paints the world with light and love,
Who leaves indelible marks on the sand of time …
Who stems from the bloodline of the great African Amazons!
 
If we ever meet,
Or you hear of me,
Remember me,
And what I am made of.
Remember me and the woman that I am.
Remember me for my quintessence.
Remember me, not my meronymy. 

Monday, 29 June 2020

Widows

Tear-tinted eyes
Prayer-primed mouths
Burden-burnished shoulders
Ache-accessorised hearts
Puzzle-puddled heads
Torture-tutored lives
For absent lovers
These burdens,
Their bond
Widows!

Tactile pleasures
Booting machines
He logs in
He surfs on
Unconstrained borders
Labyrinthine monsters
Rhizomatic pathways
In, on, up, down
Backspace, return key
And she:
Simulation
Superimposition
Vacuous virtuality
Deleted data
In his shutdown heart
The cyber freak
Digital widow!
Absent lover –
Her burdens,
Their bond.

Tactile pleasures
Booting sensuousness
He logs in
He surfs deep
Uncontrolled emotions
Luscious laps
Resonant passions
In, on, up, down
Breaststroke, rear-strokes
And she:
Side-lined
Super-non-important
Valid vagrant
Detested dote
In his shutdown heart
The hole freak
Passion widow!
Absent lover –
Her burdens,
Their bond.

Tactile pleasures
Booting doormat
He logs in
He surfs on
Unutterable batters
Lugubrious slaps
Retraceable punches
In, on, up, down
Backslaps, rearslaps
And she:
Self-sterile
Super-non-thing
Valueless veg
Doleful domino
In his shutdown heart
The combat freak
Punch widow!
Absent lover –
Her burdens,
Their bond.

Retracted pleasures
Breath-less body
He logs out
He surfs out
Unimaginable passing-out
Lamentable fade-out
Receded play stage
In, on, up, down
Burn-out, celestial roll-call
And she:
Soul partner
Super-terrestrial
Varnishing vanity
Definite dust
In his shutdown heart
The frozen life
Death-made widow!
Absent lover –
Her burdens,
Their bond                                                                                                                       (2012)

Do you SPA?

The other day, I was really excited about taking my morning walk to a whole new level. Morning walks were not new to me, actually. I had always walked round the block or down the street. This morning, however, I was walking on the motorway.
My previous routines had become monotonous and uninteresting over the years. I had reached my goals of walking consistently for 30 minutes or taking at least 5000 steps over again. I desired something new. So I had to SPA:
Set significant goals
Pursue the goals purposefully
Achieve the goals accordingly

Voila, my new SPA is consistent walk for at least 45 minutes, initially and 10,000 steps, eventually.
As I walked on that day, I was overtaken by two young joggers at different intervals. I then began to imagine what could be going on on the two young men’s minds. Did they see me as serious? Were they surprised that a middle-aged woman was walking and calling it exercising? I smiled and faced my SPA.

In that little experience, however, lies a very deep lesson to draw for living. We MUST never get bothered about what people may think of us and the goals we set. What is important is setting our goals and purposefully pursuing them in order to achieve them. Those young joggers could have set their goals in hours or miles; my goals were in minutes and steps. I had put my age and previous traumatic experiences into consideration and concluded that jogging was a no-no for me. After all, the space is enough for everyone, whether they be crawlers, strollers, walkers, joggers, runners or flyers! What is important is to keep moving. Remember that the world has never set a stage for onlookers!

SPA today!

Keep moving!

Thursday, 25 June 2020

You are there

Before the light uncovers its head or turns on the bed of dawn
Before the earliest hunter whistles to game or to chance
Before the cock crows to announce the glimpse of day,
You are there,
Kneeling,
Whispering resounding prayers to Olodumare for all
Fanning the faggots to fire amidst the tripod stand
Scrubbing feet’s ill-drawn patterns on your tiles.

When the lights have made their escapes from the pots of morn
When vibrant morning has spread its chiffon on the lines of the sky
When hustling and bustling crowds out nature’s rhythms and voices
You are there,
Bending,
Making the last tuck of the little one’s shirts
Picking lunches packed and ready for leave
Battling armies of dust invading the territories of your chairs and doors

As the golden pot spills and mixes with the day’s azure treasures
As the hot sun laughs, thumping the middle of the head
As the strongest farmer is forced to retire for the day’s job well done
You are there,
Standing,
Doing dishes of your king and kids and kin
Curbing a further weave of the spider’s textile at corners
Spreading the laundry rescued from the grips of oils and dirt.

When the dusk stands to prepare for the journey to the east
When the croaky choristers form in the river reeds
When the elders settle at village square for talks that fear daylights
You are there,
Bending,
Sweeping off the remnants of the soup of grass and sand
Arranging pepper, pots and plates for the break of fast
Sorting the baskets of dirty and not-so-dirty

After the fall has long bid the day bye
After the moon decides a meeting with the stars or not
After streams lull and rest from the many pangs and throbs of men
You are there,
Kneeling,
Singing the loveliest lullaby to shut my eyes
Covering my feet with the blankets of love and warmth
Saying sincere prayers for my morrow and the day after and the day after…